Monday, March 14, 2016

Take Off & Landing


Recently a friend of mine posted the shortest take off and landing of a single engine airplane. It was footage from a competition and the winner had won four times in a row. Within a matter of seconds and, after going just a few feet, the plane was off the ground.

And the landing was just as spectacular! Normally most planes need a long runway for a take off or landing but this plane glided down slowly and, like a sky diver attached to a parachute, the pilot landed his small plane, almost on a dime.

If i hadn't seen it I would not have believed it and, I also consider my friend, who posted the video clip, somewhat of an expert: he sells airplanes for a living.

So many factors are involved in aerodynamics: speed, weight, wind, and torque or force, to name a few. Think of all the old footage you have seen of the Wright Brothers or others who tried and failed at getting airborne.
Once Orville and Wilber Wright mastered the right formula, others were able to replicate it and now planes and jets are flying all over the world.

There is another frontier where I believe many different types of Wright Brothers have been attempting to launch something, and they are still trying to determine the formula of getting something off the ground.

I first met some of these early pioneers of flight when I attended, and eventually hosted, a weekly employment meeting. Each week unemployed men and women would gather to network. They would introduce themselves, explain the type of employment they were looking for, and trade information with others.

In a similar type of meeting, held at a different time of the week, entrepreneurs would get together and network about business ideas and businesses they were trying to launch. They even called their group the Entrepreneur Launchpad.

In addition to these two groups, I've attended chamber of commerce meetings and other business to business events. I have watch individuals try to collectively cooperate to achieve intended results.

The concept is a simple concept, but the beauty and genius entirely and completely unknown to me before. Like black charcoals on a round barbecue grill, individually it may be quite impossible to ignite the type of fire that would heat up the grill, but collectively, the constant contact between charcoals, with a flame, the right amount of oxygen, and the right amount of lighter fluid, the formula for producing heat to cook on a grill is achieved.

If you make the connection, you see that individuals are like individual pieces of  charcoal, often hard to light or motivate on their own, but individuals, working together to reach similar results, are like coals bunched together, synergizing their efforts and are compounding the results.

The unemployment meetings I have attended are unlike most meetings however. No one is selling anything to each other or trying to sell anything to each other. They are also not really in a position to hire anyone, so it is not like a job fair. In reality, it is a lot like a support group that reciprocates information, referrals, and other contact information. And, having seen these groups in action for several years, I have seen amazing, unselfish results.

In fact the above mentioned Entrepreneurial launch pad was actually started by a few people who had been attending the unemployment meetings and realized that there was power in group participation, although i don't necessarily feel that the pure motives are the same. The reason I mention this about the launch pad or maybe other group meetings like this is, no matter how pure you want the motives to be, sometimes there is someone who attends who really wants to sell you something directly, get you to join their mlm, or even worse, may steal you business idea or invention, because you didn't have the contacts or the resources to do anything with you idea.

Online social networks are a powerful tool to connect people. From Twitter to Facebook to Instagram to Linkedin it feels like we are more connected to others than we used to be. But I wonder if this level is more superficial than substantive. How strong are our friendships? How good are our connections? How long lasting are our relationships?  How many people can you call when you need something or when you are really in trouble?

I have spent the past few days in deep contemplation about this subject  How good of a friend am I?  A few years ago, while going through a terrible divorce, I started my own support group called Brothers Helping Brothers. It wasn't affiliated with my church, my line of work, or any other organization or group, it was simply for those having a hard time with the trial and transition.

Although I had been hosting the group for several years, within only a year of being single, I met a beautiful woman who I would eventually marry. Sadly I lost time and interest in the group and it faded from my priorities.  Even though the group had no part in lining me up with my wife, my single friends had helped me pick up the pieces of my life and move forward. Although my Facebook is still linked to many of my friends, I wonder how strong my contacts really are.

Naturally, over the course of our lives, our friendships shift and change. We make friends in school, then graduate and lose contact. We make friends at work, change jobs and lose contact. We make friends in wards, on missions and then, even though we don't intend to, we lose closeness and contact.

Perhaps the answer to my question is a simple one: my friendships are only as strong as the friend that I am. If I am a true friend or a good friend or a loyal friend, I will get what I give. In the end, my friendships will be a reflection of the person I have become; they will reflect who I am.

Maybe Casper the Friendly Ghost put it best when he said, "A friend in need is a friend indeed."

Friday, March 4, 2016

Zootopia


Zootopia comes out this weekend and I am really excited to see it! Although I don't know exactly what it is about, I'm going to give you my take on it.

The title "Zootopia" is a fun play on the word "utopia" which may have several definitions, but the one that comes to my mind is "perfect society". As you know the word society means a group of people, but in this story it is a group of animals, hence the word "zoo"!

What makes a great zoo is a large collection and diversity of animals that are different and unique from each other. What makes a great society are all those different animals, working together, in harmony, for things to run perfectly.

My family unit is like a little society with eight different kinds of people. And, if you add step family and extended family and in laws, you get a real zoo of diversity. It is almost as if every member of the family could, in fact, represent a different kind of animal.

Now each animal has a different make up and each behaves differently. We may want the lions to act like dogs and zebras to act like cats but lions will be lions and zebras will be zebras. The challenge for any society is to create order and organization in such away that society is regulated without eliminating diversity.

My father, Grandpa Karl, may seem slow like a sloth, now, and a shadow of his former self due to old age and health issues, but he is really a gifted man who earned a PhD in Psychology. He spent years studying organizational psychology which is, in a nutshell, the world at work. He even use to call it "the world at work"

Now, in the world at work, as my father used to say, there are three main areas of focus: Decision Making, Problem Solving and Project Completing.

So it is with us. Each of us have decisions to make, problems to solve, and projects to complete. The challenge is how we include and interact with the other animals, in our society, to get things done.

Grandpa Karl went on to introduce me to the Fabulous Five Facilitators.

Holder
Modeler
Helper
Sharer
Soloer

A facilitator is one who facilitates interaction between two or more parties or people. And these five were the areas of facilitation: holding, modeling, helping, sharing, soloing.

A holder, for example, like a cross walk guard, he or she holds back traffic so students can cross the road. A helper helps you do something, but doesn't do it for you. For example, you might get help with homework, but the helper doesn't do it for you. A modeler, like an art teacher or piano teacher, models the desired behavior and then has you do it on your own. Sharing works like this: when we share we do something together and both people equally act together. When we solo, we just do something on our own without anyone else. Showering is an excellent example of something you want to do on your own.

Some people, however, want to do everything on their own without contact or responsibility to others. But society just doesn't work that way. Someone grows and harvests the food you eat, makes the clothes you wear and the car you drive, extracts the oil and gas from the earth, you use, creates and supplies electricity, manufactures building materials and buildings, and a host of other goods and services, and relies on you and I to do our own part.

The hardest thing about having a utopia, or perfect society, is being on the same page with others because people are so different.

Dr Karl made a list of questions to help with this. As a small boy I learned and memorized the list, from my father, and I still remember the list today.

1. What are you trying to make someone do?

2. What could happen?

3. What is wanted (what do you want? What does the other person want?)

4. Why?

5. What is valued?

6. What is being done to get what is wanted?

7. How is it going?

8. What is being learned?

9. What is being celebrated?

The first question, alone, is very telling. What are you trying to make someone do? Can you really make someone do something?

In life, sometimes force is necessary, but it is usually the hardest thing to do and least effective way to do it. For centuries, governments and societies have been run by fear and force, but the lives of many were miserable. Sadly, guns are the most familiar tool used to make someone do something.

But, as difficult as it may appear, the rule of law is still important and some laws will be strictly enforced. (Think about TSA at an airport)

As you go down the list of questions you soon discover that facilitating results is a difficult task.

Try changing the question a little.

What are you trying to ask someone to do?

What could happen?

What is wanted (what do you want? What does the other person want? or Is that what they really want?)

Why?

What is valued?

What is being done to get what is wanted?

How is it going?

What is being learned?

What is being celebrated?

From the two lists of questions we realize that there really is a difference between asking and making.

As facilitators we can encourage or we can enforce. Sometimes we have to do one or the other.

We can request or we can demand. Sometimes both are required.

We can influence or we can incarcerate.

We can persuade or we can pressure.

It would be easy to just say we should encourage, request, influence, or persuade without enforcing, demanding, incarcerating, or pressuring, but, if the first options don't work, we are only left with the alternatives.

The secret is to ask yourself this question: if I don't like being told what to do, am I doing things of my own free will and choice? What kind of member of zootopia am I?

It is better to ask for something, in the beginning, without threatening. Asking doesn't hurt and asking simply goes a long way.  And, decision making, problem solving, and project completing are accomplished, with greater harmony, when we are willing to participate, by just being asked.

Even better, without being asked.

I believe a utopia or "zootopia" is possible! Enjoy the show!